“When experiencing frustration, you can let frustration lead you or you can lead frustration to support you in what you want to get.” My inner voice.
It is a dark, cold Friday night of February. The living rooms of the small houses surrounding me were enlightened by the soft moving shades of the television screen or by a luminous halo pending from the ceiling.
It is 20.30. The cold weather of London is now starting to penetrate into my bones.
I lost the sensitivity on my hands and feet a long time ago and I am now just waiting for somewhere warm to rest my body.
I and my friend Raphael have been walking constantly, at a fast pace since 3.30, the time of the beginning of the shift.
Yes, just the 2 of us today to make a difference for the people affected by cancer that McMillan is brightly supporting.
It is 20.30.
After 5h of hard work, we were able just to get 1 sign up… The end of the shift is getting closer and the temperature is dropping. Dozens of people don’t even come to the door or want to hear about us…
It is at that moment while knocking in front of number 1, Palmer Street, that I catch myself saying:
“Why am I doing all this?” “Who is making me work as a door to door fundraiser?” “Why can’t I find a job in the warmth of an office?”
It is at that moment that I catch these thoughts, running wildly into my head.
I felt really down. And the more I let myself down, more the people were responding negatively to me, slamming doors in front of my face. It is at that moment that I decided to have a small team leading session inside my own head.
For easier writing, I’ll call my frustrated self “F” and my motivational self “M”. I hope you will enjoy the little drama that was going on inside my head at that moment.
M started this motivational talk by saying to F:
“I know you feel frustrated, I know you are not getting what you were expecting from the day, and I know it is tough to keep walking with the same level of energy for 5 hours, under this cold weather. And I am sorry you have to experience all this. I am sorry you have to go through such a tough moment.”
F replied: “Thank you… I really need a break… I cannot keep working this way… I feel too frustrated.”
“Well, I agree with you, just stop for a minute and have a sip of water. I am sure you will soon feel better…” continued M.
So I stopped and took a large glass of water from the thermos I was carrying inside my bag.
M then continued:
“You know F, you know how the Universe works. All the difficulties you are facing along the way are a gift for you. This is your present now. I know you are aware that just challenging yourself you can grow and develop the skills that will allow you to overcome future challenges.”
M was right, I knew inside that I am creating this reality and what I am manifesting is what I need to grow and develop spiritually, mentally and physically. I knew it… but somehow that knowledge slipped into a remote place of my mind.
M kept on saying: “You are going to always experience frustration in your life when you are not getting what you want. There is nothing wrong. Frustration is a human feeling and is part of our perfection. There is nothing you can do about that. What you can do instead is to manage your frustration and let her be your best ally.”
F went silent for a while allowing M to move on with the talk.
“When experiencing frustration, you can let frustration lead you or you can lead frustration to support you in what you want to get. You know you have the power to do it. You know you have the power to understand, lead and manage your emotion in the way that will serve you manifesting what you really want.”
“Wow… What a great motivator!!!” Another voice, that now I call “G”, popped up from nowhere said to me.
M then took the leadership of my mindset and my emotional state, guiding F towards every door and handling in the best possible way every situation that came up afterwards.
5 minutes to 9. Last door and then the shift would be over. A gentle and beautiful woman from Hungary opened the door greeting me with a beautiful smile. It seems she was waiting just for me. We started laughing and talking about food, holidays, Hungary and Italy. Needless to say that she wanted to sign up immediately allowing me to raise funds for McMillan and reaching my best personal and team score as a team leader since I started working for Home Fundraising.
I kept on believing I could make it until the last minute, until the last door. I kept my motivation high and did the best I could at each door I knocked.
It seems that the Universe was testing me and observing me, pushing me to the point where I had just two choices: Drop or Win.
I won. I won the inner battle that was taking place between my ears, handling it with the warmth and wisdom of my heart.
It is in those days that I realise how much I have developed, how much I have changed and I much I still have to grow. It is in those days that I thank the Universe for what it is giving to me and for what I am manifesting in my life.
It is in those days that I would like to see and give him/her an HI FIVE for the perfection of each moment.
Now I invite you to think about a challenging situation you have experienced recently you could handle in a better way.
Reflect on the above using the following questions:
What were you saying to yourself?
What could you say instead?
What are you going to say next time it will happen?
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About the Author
Simone Vincenzi is the founder of Your Power to Shine Ltd. and the co-founder of GTeX Trainings. Simone is an entrepreneur, working as Inner Confidence Coach, Youth Confidence Coach, International Public Speaker and Author. He supports Young Coaches and Entrepreneurs or people that want to make a difference in the world, connecting with their Life Purpose and the Confidence within themselves, so they can create a successful business and a fulfilled life in alignment with their unique message. Simone has been featured as a speaker in some of the major London Speaking clubs like the YES Group London, The Teacher Toolkit, GTeX, Pony Express and The Raw Fest. Simone supports also the major Youth Organisations, like The Future Foundations, all over the country as a Youth Confidence Coach.
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