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Do you want more self-confidence and self-esteem? Confidence is crucial in everybody’s life, and below are some reasons why:
- It increases self-esteem, courage, and assertiveness. When you are self-confident, you are not afraid to take risks and try new things.
- It is essential for a happy and successful life.
- It is a quality that most people appreciate just don’t overdo it.
- When you are confident about yourself, you do not allow people’s words and actions to affect how you feel.
- Self-confident people don’t take things too personally, allowing for a more peaceful life.
- Self-confident people have improved emotional and mental health.
You can build self-confidence through a change of mindset towards your life, even if certain personal experiences in the past caused you to lose it.
Self-confidence is highly dependent on how you think people see you. If you have low self-esteem, you may believe that people don’t think highly of you, resulting in low self-confidence. When you lack self-confidence, you will behave accordingly, and people will treat you accordingly.
If you see yourself as strong and assertive, you will radiate this attitude towards the people you meet that will sense your inner strength and treat you accordingly.
9 Steps To Building Self-Confidence And Drive
1. Think About What You Have Achieved In Your Life So Far
Even if you have experienced failures and unhappiness in your life, there are still a bunch of achievements.
These don’t have to be huge achievements. They could be something small like getting good grades at school or college, a promotion at work, getting along well with your neighbours, getting your driving license, or learning to swim.
Thinking about them will help you realize that you have seen success in your life. This will make you feel better about yourself and about your life and improve your self-esteem.
2. Think About What You Have Achieved, Not What You Have Not
Why fill your mind with failures?
If you think too much about failure, your mind will subconsciously expect it, and it may eventually attract it to you, further spoiling your sense of self-confidence.
You should replace this negative movie with a positive one. See yourself in your mind where you want to be and live the life you want.
This will allow you to attract success, ultimately building your self-confidence.
3. Write Down A List Of Your Successes
Take another step toward your success by writing down all of your wins so far, and look at this list often.
You may say you never saw any win, but that is not the truth. You have, on some occasions, experienced success. Even baking a good cake, being in good relations with your spouse or children, or going for a walk almost every day is a form of success.
4. Think About Your Talents And Abilities
Write on a piece of paper about your talents and abilities and find ways to develop and use them. Do not say that you don’t have any talents and skills. Everyone has some; you just are not looking hard enough or underestimate yourself.
5. Strengthen Your Willpower And Self-discipline
Lack of confidence goes hand in hand with a lack of willpower and self-discipline. When you have strong willpower and self-discipline, your self-confidence will automatically grow. Stronger willpower and self-discipline mean more assertiveness, self-esteem, and confidence.
6. Set Small And Simple Goals
Set small, simple goals that are within your reach. It will greatly boost your self-confidence. I am talking about small goals such as cleaning and arranging your wardrobe or drawers, inviting friends to your house, starting to learn to swim, taking a short walk, or talking with someone whom you don’t like.
7. Develop A Positive Attitude
Rather than focusing on negative emotions and expecting the worse, make an effort to focus on the positive and expect positive results.
However, you will find this hard if you have a pessimist attitude.
But with persistence, you can build a positive attitude and change your mental habits. It will also be helpful if you remove all negative thoughts and words from your mind and from your vocabulary and refrain from using them in your conversation.
8. Throw Out The Negative And Surround Yourself With Positivity
Eliminate any negative commentary from your mind. Be firm and don’t allow negative comments about you and about your life. Negativity is like a highly contagious virus —it’s easy to catch it when you’re exposed. Choose to be around positive people who build you and others up. We are all influenced by those around us. Choose your friends, your tribe, carefully. If you have someone that has nothing but negative things to say, it’s time to cut them off!
9. Master Your Fears
Do you have a fear of failure, rejection, or selling? Or other fears that limit your success, relationships, and happiness? Most people do.
Irrational fear distorts perception. Imagine wearing red-tinted glasses — everything you see and perceive is red. It’s the same with fear. When you look through a lens of fear, things look like you should fear them. You can master the fear of failure, rejection, or selling — and other fears by embracing them.
Imagine your fear. What does it look like? What might it sound like? Does it have a name? Drawing your fear without judgment is sometimes quite revealing. Your fear’s original purpose was to protect you, but now it holds you back. Be thankful for the protection it gave you when you needed it. Acknowledge your fear, and then release it with deep appreciation. Begin to let it go.
I hope you found this piece a useful and informative dive into self-confidence and drive. It turns out that Henry Ford was mostly right—although self-confidence isn’t necessary to function in our world, it can make all the difference between “just getting by” and thriving!
Thankfully, your levels of self-confidence aren’t set in stone. You can give yourself a boost, like a shot in the arm if you will.
About the Author
Federico Omarini is a Business Manager and Senior Consultant in Learning & Development. Harvad Education MBA graduated, he started his professional career in important companies operating in the corporate training sector. Specialized in Negotiation, Business Planning, HR Consulting, Coaching and Sales, at Cegos he is in charge of developing and managing relationships with strategic clients: from needs analysis to managing the entire sales process and qualitative follow-up.
Passionate about Human Resources management, he is also the creator and Manager of “NextGen@Cegos”, the hiring process specifically structured for sales figures. Specifically, he is in charge of the scouting, selection and onboarding process for new sales recruits, including the organization of specific Mentoring and Training activities.
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